Live In Love Not Fear
Do you want freedom in your life? Most likely you do. We want to be free to travel, or free to be in a job we love, maybe free to live wherever we want.
Most of us feel like we don’t have much freedom in our lives, instead, most likely we feel stuck.
Stuck at that job.
Stuck with that person.
Stuck living in that city.
I know that feeling.
I felt stuck in a job for years. I ended up feeling burned out, stressed, and unhappy.
Luckily I had a partner who was a great sounding board and reminded me that I had many talents and skills and that I didn’t have to work at a job that wasn’t a fit. He reminded me and still does that:
First, accept that this is where you are right now. Now, you need to decide what you want to do next.”
Accept responsibility for everything in your life
This is the job you took. This is the relationship you decided to be in. This is the place you are living in. These are the decisions you made.
I know it’s hard. It requires you to look at things in your life you do not like and not blame anyone else. It is going to require you to let go of perceptions of what other people are “doing to you.”
When you accept full responsibility for your life you get your power back. You get to decide what happens next instead of it happening to you.
Let’s say you have a job you hate. You blame it on your coworkers or lack of culture, your manager and their inability to lead, your commute, whatever it is.
So what do you do?
First, ask yourself what have you tried to do at work to help change what you don’t like?
If you have and it’s not in your control, then control your attitude. You will be amazed at how much more pleasant life can be if you switch your perception.
Changing your Circumstance
I am not saying keep a positive attitude and stay in a situation that isn’t working. I am saying changing your perception will make your life easier until you can change your circumstance.
Let’s say you have done everything in your power to help the situation. You have offered suggestions, tried being positive, change some of your behaviors that may be contributing and it’s time for a change.
What do you need to do to move on? Write out the steps. If it is your job, have you written a resume and sent it out? Have you taken any additional classes to gain any additional skills? Have you let friends and family know you are looking for a change?
Before you make a change ask yourself some questions.
1. Can you accept the situation or person and change your attitude?
2. Does what’s happening with the situation or person outweigh the positives? Make a list.
3. Is changing your circumstance going to change your attitude or is it a thought rut you have? You can’t ever get away from you.
Accepting responsibility for everything that is happening in your life will give you freedom in your life. It gives you the first step to change it.